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How to get ‘unstuck’ from your current situationÂ
Do you ever wish there was a secret formula for success that you could just follow without having to figure everything out yourself?Â
Sometimes we find ourselves unsatisfied in an area of our life, but don’t believe we can do anything about it. We feel stuck in a rut, but stay there because ‘it’s how it’s always been done’.
There’s an old saying that ‘The apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree’. It’s generally referring to how a child is the same as their parent, and can be used in both a positive or negative sense.
Many people feel trapped in unfulfilling situations or unhealthy habits because of how they were raised, or the circumstances and environments they’ve always known. They feel like that’s just the way it is and always will be, and use it as an excuse for poor behavior, or lack of taking the responsibility to change things.
You can look like your parents or grandparents, but that doesn’t mean you have to live the same lives they did! If they didn’t live up to their potential, it doesn’t mean you can’t. Even If they did great things, that’s awesome, but you can do even greater in your own interests.
I say, “The apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree, but you can pick yourself up and go anywhere you want!” You don’t have to stay where you dropped! We aren’t apples, we’re humans. We have choices. We don’t have to wait for someone else to pick us up and make something out of us – we can pick our self up. We don’t have to accept the status quo and settle for a life we don’t feel is the one we want to live.
It’s important that you don’t use your heritage, culture, or anything else in your past, as an excuse to stay where you are. The problem with excuses is they cause you to stay stuck in your problem. Winners don’t make excuses; they make themselves take action. They do things they don’t feel like doing even when it’s uncomfortable.
If you don’t like your position in life, you can pick yourself up and move! Just because you grew on that tree and dropped in the area of that tree, doesn’t mean you have to stay there! We as humans have choices.  If you don’t like where you are, you can just walk off and find a different place.  You need to change your old mindset and get a new one that will help you move forward.Â
6 mindsets that keep us stuck:
1. We think we need permisson from others before we can make a moveÂ
Too often people get stuck waiting around for ‘permission’ to do things differently. The reality is, that not too many people are going to tell you to go for your dreams. Many might even tell you not to go for it, and all the things that can go wrong if you do. This can be because they love you and don’t want to see you hurt, not realizing that it hurts you even more by playing small. Some might want to see you stay safe, and some might just want you to stay in the comfort zone of complacency with them! You need to give yourself permission.
2. We want someone or something else to move us
We need to stop waiting for somebody else to pick us up, or for the environment ‘under the tree’ to change for the better. We are responsible to make the changes. Stop waiting and start working!
3. We think we can’t change
This just isn’t true. No matter what other people might have said, or what it seems like from past experience, we can all change, and it’s never too late! There is something you can do now that will start a catalyst of change in you.
4. We think we have to take a big scary step
Every step forward, no matter how small, is progress! Many small steps every day will eventually take you a long way. The more steps you take, the more comfortable you’ll get with walking and soon you’ll be taking bigger, faster steps!
5. We think we need to have everything figured out first
Nobody knows every answer! The point is to figure out the first thing to do and do it, then the next, and so on….
6. We’re afraid of losing what we have losing what we have even though we aren’t stuck happy with it
The problem with making a decision is letting go of one of the options. Some people let this paralyze them from going forward. You need to take a good look at whether you are okay with staying still, and what you will really lose if you don’t make a move.
To sum up, don’t use your past to excuse you from stepping into the future you desire. You’re not an apple – you’ve got legs, and you can make choices! Make a choice today to step closer to the life you want to live! Embrace the good things from the tree you came from, and use them as the resources to take you where you want to go, and if necessary, use any negative things to fuel your hunger to improve your situation!
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